Anonymous asked: do you have any other blogs?

awkwarddancing.tumblr.com but I stopped updating it a while ago.
If anyone wants to contribute to the best blog ever (TM), just let me know.

Anonymous asked: ironic? ha! but you seem so.. I dunno.. capable of dealing with relationship/friendship issues. But I suppose you're right - maybe you're different in person. However, you give good advice and so I hope I'm not intruding or being too gaudy in persisting with my my shit here. I just am a shy person and although my relationship with this girl was completely open and definitely very comfortable for a long time.. now I just feel so distanced. I have no idea what to say :(

Are you still in a relationship with this girl? If you still are and you feel very distanced then you should talk to her about it and see how she feels. 

If you’re not with her anymore but want to start talking to her again then you could just try to have a harmless conversation with her at first and see how it goes from there and maybe then you can tell her how you feel. If you’re already too distanced for that then maybe you could write her a letter explaining her how you feel. It’s often easier for shy people to write down what they’re thinking instead of saying it out loud.

Anonymous asked: since you're the relationship guru.... I don't know how to mend a relationship I fucked up in the past. I don't have feelings for her any longer but I just want to keep in contact - I still care. So... help?

If you knew me better you’d know how ironic it would be to call me the relationship guru…

I think there are not secret tricks or anything to deal with this. You can only do one thing: be honest with her and tell her how you feel. If you’re truly sorry then tell her so, tell her you still care about her and make clear in what way. Tell her you want to keep in contact and make sure you make clear that you’ll do it her way. If you’re the one who fucked it up then you can only make it right by letting her decide if and how you two continue.

Anonymous asked: I have feelings for someone who lives on the other side of the world and with whom I've talked for about a year. It's killing me. I'm so scared to say it, as I worry the reaction will be "that's ridiculous because we've never met in person". Can you help?

Having feelings for someone who lives on the other side of the world…what makes you think I can relate to that? ;)

I’m not really brave when it comes to expressing my feelings to someone I like so I won’t tell you to just take a leap and tell the other you love him/her because I know how scary that can be. Luckily, with me and Em it was pretty obvious we liked each other from the start. I say “pretty obvious”…I mean, we could’ve carried massive neon signs which read “I REALLY LIKE YOU” and it would’ve been more subtle.
I think if you talked to each other for a year you might have some idea if he/she likes you. Are your conversations completely friendly and do you talk to each other about other boys/girls or are you completely focused on each other and do you sometimes flirt?

Don’t worry about never having met in person. If you’ve talked for a year then you know each other pretty well and your feelings are just as valid as when you know someone in person. Next time you talk to him/her try to steer the conversations towards relationships. Ask him/her what kind of person they usually fall for, what he/she would do on a first date, ask him/her what they think of you and you probably have some idea if that person likes you too. At some point you do have to bite the bullet and tell him/her about your feelings. You seem to know each other well so I doubt the other will respond badly to that.

I hope this helps a bit. Good luck. I hope you two meet each other one day. Tell me how it went.

Hey, remember that time we decided to kiss anywhere except the mouth?